We Are Who We Attract

Say what you will. Agree. Disagree. I know there are ALWAYS going to be lil "special cases", exceptions. It doesn't matter. This is me generalizing, based on what I've seen in my life and those around me...But, truthfully, we ARE what we attract. Lets face it, people are instinctively drawn towards others that, on some level, they feel are "like" them...or who they think will "match" or "go well" with them. So, if all you seem to attract are losers...well...sorry but...that must make you a loser in some way....OR..it must mean that you have loser tendencies...If all you attract are crazies, its because you must be crazy yourself. See, its all about finding that "common ground" with someone. Its the only way they can "connect" with you, I guess, because you are in fact the same in some way...even if that way isnt clear to you at that particular moment. But that similarity is there. I guess, on a superficial level, this is why "pretty" people get mad when all these "ugly" people are always trying to go after them. They get offended as if to say, "Do you REALLY think we would look good together!? Do you REALLY think that I would be happy (or rather, proud) to say that you're mine? Or have you say that I'm yours?" and so on...

Even I'm guilty of thinking that way....when some of these females tell me that they find me attractive...or that they like me...blah blah blah (which is strange, because how can you TRULY like someone you barely even know...but w/e)...I think to myself, "wow...you must REALLY think I'm as damaged as you are..." But I guess, when i stop and REALLY analyze our personalities...I see some of my own traits in them....but often, those traits arent really the ones I like about myself..so that just makes me dislike them more than I already do.

It's a crazy thing. And I find it interesting how so many people try to go against this, for the saaame reason I have for disliking a lot of these females...This is why you constantly see people struggling to find someone who is, in fact, better than them. (Not REALLY better, but just someone who they feel is better in some way. That way they avoid seeing their own flaws reflected in the person they're with.)

That's just what I think...


Peace






***10:53...I guess my mind's still racing because now I have to pose this question....By that logic, if you're the type of person who goes after (if not falls for) people who all are drastically different from eachother...would that, now, imply that you don't really know who you are, since it seems that you don't really know who you truly "match" with?

Just a thought...

random...but....I think its a lil sad and somewhat ironic that people constantly go on n on about trying find someone who's "special" but in all honesty the deeper you dig into someone, the more you find out about them, and find out how they really are...in the very core....they're no different from everyone else. Kinda defeats the purpose of trying, dont you think? i think it'd be more honest of everyone to say, instead, that they're simply trying to find someone who doesn't annoy the shit out of them and fucks well... o_O

Long Distance Relationships..

Check out a convo I just had with a friend of mine...should be self explanatory...

[15:10] HER!: yo wat do u think about long distance relationships
[15:10] ME!!!: a waste of time
[15:10] ME!!!: i would never suggest anyone gettin into it
[15:10] ME!!!: it just doesnt work
[15:10] ME!!!: n its really unfair to both sides
[15:11] HER!: now what if u were together for a while then one had to move away for various reasons and the other planned on joining them later
[15:11] ME!!!: well
[15:12] ME!!!: 1...it depends if the person is even serious about joining em later...which usually turns out to be bs...
[15:12] ME!!!: and 2...imma just say this for me personally...if im with someone...n they move away...im not giving up the life i have here just to go with them
[15:12] ME!!!: it just doesnt work that way
[15:12] ME!!!: i can understand if we're already married and we "together" make the decision to pack up everything n move
[15:13] ME!!!: but i dont follow anyone
[15:13] ME!!!: id rather just end it...n keep living my life...n figure, if its meant to be (as some people say) we'll find our way back to eachother
[15:13] HER!: ok
[15:13] ME!!!: it doesn thave to end on bad terms or anything
[15:13] ME!!!: but it saves the trouble of silly ass arguements and whatnot
[15:13] HER!: but what if u plan on getting married and all that i mean u really love this person
[15:13] ME!!!: like i said
[15:14] ME!!!: it just doesnt work that way lol
[15:14] ME!!!: if i "love" someone
[15:14] ME!!!: and i know that their life is taking them elsewhere
[15:14] ME!!!: a place that i cant or simply wont chose to follow
[15:14] ME!!!: id let them go
[15:14] HER!: yeah but its not their choice to move its the only thing they can do
[15:14] ME!!!: i wouldnt follow them cause i cant just give up my life
[15:14] ME!!!: i didnt say it was their choice..im just saying
[15:15] ME!!!: that life sometimes leads you on a path away from the person u love
[15:15] ME!!!: and they cant always follow
[15:15] ME!!!: and it just causes too many needless issues to try to force it
[15:15] ME!!!: when you could just agree to live your lives then somehow find your way back
[15:15] HER!: ok...i was j/w
[15:15] ME!!!: i know
[15:15] ME!!!: its liek my homegirl....she's MADLY in love with this guy in AZ
[15:15] ME!!!: but he has his professional life there
[15:15] ME!!!: and she has hers here
[15:16] ME!!!: despite how much they love and care for eachother neither of em would just pack up and move just for the other one
[15:16] ME!!!: they're mature enough to understand that the other has their own life to live
[15:16] HER!: i guess ppl r diff
[15:16] ME!!!: yeah and smarter i guess hahah
[15:16] ME!!!: and they're patient enough to know that if it really is meant for them to be
[15:16] ME!!!: life will bring em together eventually
[15:17] ME!!!: most people are too stubborn to get this...but usually..when u try to force something it ends up blowing up in ya face
[15:17] ME!!!: *shrug* just how life is
[15:17] ME!!!: its unfair sometimes
[15:17] HER!: well i mean its not that its being forced i guess for some ppl its just sumthin that sum folk choose to do n sumtimes it does work
[15:18] ME!!!: lol
[15:18] ME!!!: hardly
[15:18] ME!!!: im a man of statistics
[15:18] HER!: yeah so am i but idk folk b surprisin me
[15:18] ME!!!: i suppose
[15:19] HER!: i say it b/c i used to say it never works out but ive met a few couples in which it has worked out
[15:20] ME!!!: welp
[15:20] ME!!!: i guess
[15:20] ME!!!: and it IS rare
[15:20] ME!!!: but like u said
[15:20] ME!!!: ppl are diff.
[15:20] ME!!!: so u cant really go by based on what worked for other people
[15:20] ME!!!: like i see motha fuckas dunking a basketball
[15:20] ME!!!: lol
[15:20] ME!!!: doesnt mean i'll do it if i jump the same way they do
[15:20] ME!!!: haha
[15:21] ME!!!: or or..."well...so n so smoked a blunt and nothing happened to him." pfft lolol
[15:21] ME!!!: that theory is severely flawed
[15:21] ME!!!: "if they can do it, i can" pffft
[15:21] HER!: k
[15:21] ME!!!: thats overly optimistic delusion
[15:21] ME!!!: lmfao
[15:23] ME!!!: i love how i come up with these phrases..."overly optimistic delusion" lmfao
[15:23] HER!: yeah...cuz ive had a few ppl tell me so far that it doesnt work...n they say this based on their past experiences but they say it with such a convinction that its as if since it didnt work for me its not going to work for anyone
[15:24] ME!!!: well
[15:25] ME!!!: i simply say it because if u take a look at the situation from a logical point of view
[15:25] ME!!!: not to mention the amount of relationships that seemed "perfect" at first but ultimately failed BECAUSE they tried to stay together after someone moved away
[15:25] ME!!!: aaaand just the overall knowledge of typical human nature
[15:25] HER!: no of course but then again when has the emotion of "love" been considered logical
[15:25] ME!!!: long distance relationships werent meant to work out
[15:25] ME!!!: its not really a "relationship"
[15:25] ME!!!: its just the illusion of one
[15:26] ME!!!: n i think its unfair to the one who feels the most in the relationship typically the female
[15:26] ME!!!: cause liek damn...if im together with someone...and i move away i wouldnt want/expect them to still want to be with me
[15:26] ME!!!: "exclusively"
[15:26] HER!: idk the couples ive met were together for the longest then someone had to move they did the long distance thing the other eventually moved or both met at a point and there you go
[15:26] ME!!!: its unfair to her
[15:26] ME!!!: i know females have needs
[15:26] ME!!!: n its not on a sexual thing
[15:26] ME!!!: but u know
[15:26] HER!: yeah
[15:27] ME!!!: they need to feel that warmth
[15:27] ME!!!: of someone holding them
[15:27] ME!!!: n just physically being there for em
[15:27] ME!!!: on all levels
[15:27] ME!!!: n i wouldnt want to hold them back from potentially finding someone who might even be better for them than i am
[15:27] ME!!!: just because i selfishly want to hold on to her from god knows how many miles away
[15:27] ME!!!: its just ridiculous
[15:28] HER!: yeah but some ppl dont think like that
[15:28] ME!!!: well thats because some people are overly delusional, blinded by their own selfish nature to "not want to let go" lol
[15:29] ME!!!: i suppose i come off as heartless and im sure i talk like its easy to let go of someone you love
[15:29] ME!!!: believe me i get that
[15:29] ME!!!: n i hope to never have to go through that cause i know i'll be kicking myself in the ass
[15:29] ME!!!: and i know i wouldnt WANT to let her go
[15:29] ME!!!: but ultimately, i would
[15:29] ME!!!: cause its just not fair
[15:29] ME!!!: to either of us
[15:36] ME!!!: so yea. there u have it
[15:37] ME!!!: sorry if thats prolly not the answer u were looking for. but u can bet its the most honest one